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I have said this a hundred times: early this year I’ve shifted from novels to self-help books. And the book that has the biggest influence on this transition is Paano Ba' To?! by Bianca Gonzalez.

I have always wanted to buy this book when it came out because there were a lot of positive reviews. But for some constraints, I did not get the chance to buy it.

So fast forward to March 2017, when I went with my parents to CDO, I saw 4 copies of this book at National Bookstore so I bought one even though it wasn't the book that I initially planned on buying. Thank God for some happy accidents.

Speaking of which, I don’t plan to make this a review but I guess we’re heading to that direction so let’s see:

1. I’m not very good with arts, calligraphy and everything else in between but I personally love the creative design of this book. From front to back cover, there are a lot of random cliparts which I don’t really find annoying or magulo. In fact, I find it cute and complementary to the white cover.


2. When you open the front and back cover, you will see calligraphic writing of inspirational quotes. Again, surprisingly it’s not irritating to the eyes. I had fun reading them. So I think #ProjectBG Team found the right balance. (Wow. Expert… ish.)


3. The division of chapters is simple and true to its sense as well - Family, Friendship, Love, Career & Money, Failures, Fashion & Beauty, Purpose, and Self. Bianca also purposely left a blank page for the readers/writers to write on after every chapter. I like this part because it encourages an interaction (and assessment) of some sort. She then ended with some beautiful quotes as takeaway.


4. With regards to the content, I love the straight-to-the-point advice not just from Bianca but also from her friends – Toni, Anne, Luis, and a lot more. And because they’re speaking from first-hand experiences, it gives more weight to the words.


5. Bianca quoted here a lot of inspiring words from great books. This led me to reading Essentialism to The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck which then paved the way to books that I wish I had known and read in the past.


6. It comes with these lovely stickers!


A little fact: I wanted to give this book to a friend but because of the end-of-the-chapter journal, I couldn’t. My dark little secrets are scribbled on those pages. I wouldn’t risk it. Lol. Speaking of, here’s a letter to myself that I’ve written after the last chapter. Write something for yourself too! ;)
Dear self,

Wow. Unsa toy uso ron, we started from the bottom and now we’re here?! Hehe.

The fact that you now (almost) finish this book is something to be proud of. It means you acknowledge your worries, anxieties, shortcomings and you’re willing to be better. It means you have an open mind for new perspective. So quit worrying. You’re doing just fine. There’s one person that I haven’t apologized to and that’s you. Sorry for those failures and times when I didn’t stand up for you. You deserve better.

So what I really like to say is I pray that you find that one job that will make you wanna wake up and get up every day. I hope you never forget who you are living for – the God who deserves your praises. I dream for you to be more passionate on your craft, more loving not just to family and friends but also to the unlovable, to be more compassionate and empathetic, to be more courageous and confident, more forgiving – to others and to yourself, to choose to be happy everyday, to be generous and to always radiate positivity and humility.

I want you to know that you’re beautiful – inside and out. Because God made you so. You are strong and resilient. You are flexible and hardworking. So whatever goals that you have, I am confident that you will achieve them if you put your heart in it. You are special and kind. You’re smart and quick so believe that you can do it. But always bear in mind Who you’re doing it for.✝️❤️
   
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I am currently reading Mark Manson's book entitled The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life. Why, I don't know. I stumbled upon this book on a Facebook group that I also randomly joined in. I think this year, I officially shifted from novel to self-help books. Hashtag I need help.

Anyway, this is not a book review as I am still on the 6th chapter. But there are just some points in the book that are so hard to ignore. Especially because today I got to experience and reflect on one of the most essential concepts-- fault and responsibility.

As few people know, (channeling The Script) I've got a new job now in the unemployment line. So I had to find a part-time job online just because. Fast forward, I'm now working as an English teacher in a home-based online English school. Within my first week of teaching, I never encountered any serious problems. None at all. Until today. When I checked my profile, I noticed that I was marked absent in one of my classes yesterday (which by the way I finished successfully). Not to mention, the site malfunctioned at the exact same time. Regardless, they deducted an amount 6 times my earning for 1 class (that's the rule). To give you a clearer picture, if I earn say Php5,000 per class, Php30,000 will be deducted from my total earnings. That's an exaggerated example. But yeah you get the idea. Imagine how outraged I was. It was like volunteering for 6 classes. Why will I pay for something that's not my fault?, I told myself. So then, funnily enough, I remembered what I have read in The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. No, it wasn't my fault. But it's my responsibility now. To borrow the words of Mark Manson, you can think of it this way-- fault is past tense; responsibility is present tense. It may or may not be my fault but it is my responsibility now that it has entered my life. So instead of explicitly blaming them for the situation, I gathered and sent some proofs that I really finished my class. While implicitly blaming them still. Just kidding.

We all have this tendency to blame others (or anything but ourselves) for our messed up situation and refuse to take responsibility but again to quote Mark Manson, we are responsible for experiences that aren't our fault all the time. This is part of life. He made a point by giving this example: For instance, you woke up one day and there was a newborn baby on your doorstep. It would not be your fault that the baby has been put there but the baby would now be your responsibility. And whatever you choose to do from that point onwards or not choose to do (which basically is also a choice) will be your responsibility as well.

The point is that whatever the state of your life is right now, chances are it's your fault. Or somebody else's. Or the result of the world's injustice. But one thing for sure is: it's your responsibility. And I believe there's so much power in that. ðŸ˜Š

PS. They already removed my penalty.
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